A Glimpse into our autism: No stress

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Dear friend,

Yesterday he told me;

 I did it without stress mum. 

He had a cool look on his face that demanded, what were you worried about? But his smile gave away his feelings of pride...

I couldn't contain my cheer and we all joined in with a chorus of well done son, good job, we knew you could do it.

We were witnessing a milestone moment, akin to watching your baby take their first step, hearing their first word or taking them off to school for the very first time.

It is assessment week at school. A week that strikes fear into the heart of many children (and parents) but one that to him has always spelt disaster.
Two hands holding jigsaw pieces together




Most children feel the pressure, most children want to  do their best. That is normal. But add autism into the equation and the problems are exaggerated. The timetable is different, the chair and tables may be set out differently, the work is different, your friends are not behaving the same, people are all talking about the tests, the workbook is set out differently. There is just too much junk piling up in his brain and there is no escape.

Butterfly with coloured jigsaw pieces pattern with text
It has been a long journey of patient teaching, therapy, meetings, constant reinforcement that it is OK to make mistakes. Hours and hours of talking and listening and teaching with a variety of family, experts, teachers and friends. But something this year has clicked.

I don't expect we will ever know what it is. Perhaps he has matured, perhaps the therapy has worked... Did he have a lightbulb moment when his brilliant support teacher told him;

This school year is much harder and everyone is going to make mistakes. It is part of learning.

We have all stuck to the mantra, Mistakes are part of learning...

Actually, I don't care what it is. All I know is the overwhelming sense of pride and relief I feel that we have come so far. If he can overcome this huge obstacle what else can he overcome?

Yesterday he told me;

 I did it without stress mum. 

He had a cool look on his face that demanded, what were you worried about? But his smile gave away his feelings of pride...



A glimpse into autism is a series of short letters that explore how autism effects us on a day to day basis. Disclaimer:  this is our experience not all autistic people are the same.





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