A Glimpse into our Autism: Choosing a school


Dear friend,

Yesterday he told me I don't want to go to an Autistic school!

Why are you sending me to that school? I don't want to go there. I want to go with my friends.

I could feel my heart pounding in my chest...

How do I answer?

In my imagination I'm throwing myself on the sofa like a stroppy toddler and saying, don't blame me it's your bloody autism's fault not mummy's. But in reality I listen and nod and tell him it is just one option and he can look at a few places, and we will decide together...

I always get the blame. I know in my head that we take our frustrations out on those closest to us but the punishment stings.

I am taking him away from his friends and I am putting him in a school for 'Autistic kids'.  (He appears to have forgotten that he is one of those 'autistic kids' too.)

Two hands holding jigsaw pieces together



It feels early to be looking at secondary schools, he has over a year left in primary but we need to be on top of our game. We need have to make the right choice!

Butterfly with coloured jigsaw pieces pattern with textThe choice for us is made smaller because he will not cope in a mainstream secondary school. The size, noise, organisation required, different rooms, teachers etc just will not work. We've discussed it with school and we all accept that but he doesn't!

It is amazing that we even have a school for autistic children in our neighbourhood. Parents will be desperate to enrol their children. He doesn't understand that we'll be really really lucky to get him into this school.

And if we don't get him into this school what is our other option? I honestly don't know... our choice is extremely limited!

All parents face pressure that they must make the right educational decisions for their child, this will determine their future success after all.

But if your child has additional needs the choices available are significantly fewer.

I want to be ambitious for my son. I want to give him the chance to reach his potential too...

Yesterday he told me I don't want to go to an Autistic school!

Why are you sending me to that school? I don't want to go there. I want to go with my friends.

I could feel my heart pounding in my chest...



A glimpse into autism is a series of short letters that explore how autism effects us on a day to day basis. Disclaimer: this is our experience not all autistic people are the same.





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