A glimpse into our autism: Memory

7 December 2016

Dear friend,

Yesterday he asked me what do I do with my underpants? I would have laughed, if the look on his face hadn't been so serious or I hadn't been so tired...

Every day at 7.30 we go upstairs, he gets undressed and has a shower and we get ready for bed. Every day he asks; What do I do with my underpants...

Every day we follow the same routine, the same pattern...

We keep it that way to help him feel safe, in control.

Two hands holding jigsaw pieces together

But he doesn't just ask as part of the routine. He doesn't remember. Like he doesn't remember to flush the toilet, bring his homework book back, drink enough or shut the cupboard door...

Yet, we get in the car and I throw on some tunes and he immediately asks for track number 7 because that's his favourite (we haven't listened to this for months) he remembers the place we visited 5 years ago last summer, what we ate on his birthday 3 years ago, the name of every Track in the Slam top 40 and the statistics of each Pokemon in his Pokedex...
Butterfly with coloured jigsaw pieces pattern with text

It's like his Brain computes the information and filters out the mundane. Yet the mundane tasks are the exact things we need to remember to help us function, to keep us safe and healthy, to let us live an independent life...

Yesterday he asked me what do I do with my underpants? I would have laughed, if the look on his face hadn't been so serious or I hadn't been so tired...


A glimpse into autism is a series of short letters that explore how autism effects us on a day to day basis. Disclaimer:  this is our experience not all autistic people are the same.





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