Tips for living as an EXPAT

Dear friends,

It is my anniversary, I have been living in Holland for eleven years. Eleven years that have passed in the blink of an eye but have also been an entire lifetime of experiences...

Looking back I have no idea how I did it but in the space of a single year I had major (life changing surgery), got a new job, sold my home, moved country, got married and fell pregnant. Oh, yes this lady never does anything by halves.

It was a time of intense happiness and excitement and the first year certainly felt like a holiday. We spent our weekends visiting beautiful places and living in that wonderful bubble of a new relationship. But there were also moments of utter despair and loneliness. My new hubby worked in the UK during the week and some family members found it hard to accept my desertion which caused a rift and when my son arrived it almost broke me...

Eleven years later and I can truthfully state that Holland is my home. This is where I want to be and although it does scare me that I might end up that funny english woman, sitting alone in the corner of the old folks home, I can't imagine living anywhere else.

Recently during a conversation with the tribe (#tribalchat) one member shared her feelings of loneliness, living as a new EXPAT.  Another tribe member advised that she talk to me about how I did it. So how did I settle into my new life and what exactly have I learned over the last eleven years?

Tips for living as an EXPAT...







  1. Embrace your new home: You are in a different place, sounds obvious but embrace the new food, language, customs and don't try to recreate how you lived at home. Of course I still love some home comforts every now and again, who doesn't but allow yourself to try new things and avoid making comparisons.
  2. Make International Friends: Find people in the same situation as you, who know what you are going through. Join an EXPAT social group or if you have children a baby group for Internationals. I did this and met loads of new friends which helped me to feel less isolated.
  3. In the beginning it may help to: Live where there are other EXPATS. I didn't do this so it was quite difficult to socialise with my colleagues outside of work.
  4. Have realistic expectations: I thought I would be able to speak dutch fluently in the first year. Eleven years later and I am getting there. Know that shopping, going to the Doctor, talking to neighbours etc will be more difficult and you need to have confidence.
  5. Learn the language: being able to communicate with others made me feel much more at home. I still struggle with this as I often feel that my language is not quick enough to show off my personality and humour!
  6. Get out in your host community! Don't lock yourself in the EXPAT world, get to know the local people, join in with the celebrations, be involved with your community.
  7. Use technology: Become best friends with Skype or FaceTime.  Use Social Media to find local EXPAT groups and stay in touch with friends at home so you still feel part of their lives.
  8. Be prepared for culture shock! Try to visit your new home often before moving. Learn about the country you are going to and their customs.
  9. Discover some favourite places. Find some places that you love visiting and when those home town blues strike go out for the day and remind yourself what you love about your new home.
  10. Be patient! In order to settle in and feel at home, keep your sense of humour and know that adapting will take time...
My go to place is the beach, it calms me and re-energises me at the same time. 


Don't forget to unpack your bags mentally too. Accept that this is your home and embrace it!


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